We've barely made it through the holidays of December and January, and now the stores are filled with hearts and flowers and candy, all of it in celebration of the gift of love. But February 14 will be a difficult day for those of us who are grieving; it will be our first Valentine's Day since our precious Valentine “GUANA” died. For us there is no celebration; just sadness….. Sometimes, for fear of "letting go," we may find ourselves "holding on" to our pain as a way of remembering those we love. Letting go of what used to be is not an act of disloyalty, and it does not mean forgetting Guana. Letting go means leaving behind the sorrow and pain of grief and choosing to go on, taking with us only those memories and experiences that enhance our ability to grow and expand our capacity for happiness. If our memories are painful and unpleasant, they can be hurtful and destructive. If they create longing and hold us to the past, they can interfere with our willingness to move forward in our grief journey. But it doesn't have to be that way. We can choose which parts of life we shared that we wish to keep and which parts we wish to leave behind. We can soothe our pain by thinking of happy as well as sad memories. The happiness we experienced with Guana belongs to us forever. If we decide to do so, we can choose to embrace Valentine's Day as a special day on which to commemorate “GUANA” and to celebrate our love for him. Death ends a life, but it does not end the relationship we had with him. The bonds of love are never severed by death, and the love we shared will never die either. For Valentine's Day this year, we can all find a way to honor GUANA, to remember him and to show him that our love is eternal.